Monday, January 5, 2009

Love Can Last Forever

When I was in AP Psychology, I was taught that being "in love" lasts only for about a year, or two at the most. To my delight, a team of scientists recently found out otherwise.

"Using brain scans, researchers at Stony Brook University in New York have discovered a small number of couples respond with as much passion after 20 years together as most people only do during the early throes of romance, Britain's Sunday Times newspaper reported." This was based on brain scans of courting couples and more mature couples.

Anyway, it made me happy. I speculate that keeping romance alive depends on two things: first, a solid foundation of friendship, honesty, and trust, and second, keeping romance alive by flirting, dating, and enjoying being affectionate. Learn to express love in a way that your spouse understands.


Denette said...


I will admit that I don't ALWAYS feel "in love" like while my husband and I were dating. However, when I strive to learn the love language that my husband "speaks" and he learns mine, everything in our relationship only gets better with age.

Disclaimer: I've only been married 12 years. I still have a lot of "aging" to do. :-)

Oh, and just because I've figured out the love language spoken today, doesn't mean that it won't change tomorrow. :-)

Olorin said...

Yay for love languages!

Bjorn said...

I agree. I think one of the biggest reasons it doesn't last is simply because people stop acting like they are dating. They quit flirting, going on dates, touching, joking, affirming, etc. People that are consistent tend to keep it up. That may be difficult, but very possible with effort.